A weekly column on human psychology, youth & leadership with Dr. Debilal Mishra
Have patience! We say this quite so often. But do we have patience? Today in the column Finding Hope with DLM we’ll discuss some questions relating to the importance of patience in our lives.
Why patience is important in life? Without patience, we can never move forward. Patience is central to perseverance. In life, we face so many situations, and every situation is unique. Patience helps us stand strong, learn from the situations and hope for the best. Swami Vivekananda once said that purity, patience and perseverance are the three essentials to success. A truly successful life is undoubtedly and inevitably built on the virtues of patience.
How can one have patience when there is so much of turmoil around? A good question indeed! Patience is all about behaving with inner strengths and wisdom. The inner strength comes from understanding the situations and learning from the experiences results in wisdom. One needs to grow wise with the experiences. Patience is possible only when one keeps believing in their inner strengths and wisdom. Therefore self-belief is the key to being patient in every situation.
What are the fundamental challenges to patience?
Yes, there can be various challenges including but not limited to ego, ignorance, impulse and weaknesses. Patience calls for effective self-control and management. Being patient is not being weak; rather, it is being balanced. Without patience we can neither face a stronger situation nor can we learn from it. Patience makes us persevere with no loss of faith and flow.
How can we be patient in all situations? It’s by understanding a situation and believing in our strengths that we can be patient. According to Carl Jung, a great Psychologist, “Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.”
Patience mostly consists in one’s ability to be calm in a situation that is quite disturbing. And for this one has to be positively spacious from within. A patient mind learns to accept things and convert them into opportunities for greater growth.
How are patience and happiness related to each other?
When someone is impatient, they lose their inner balance. The loss of inner balance leads to the loss of inner peace which in turn ensures the loss of happiness. Impatience leads to behavioural instability, whereas patience causes stability and progress. If you are patient, you can control your emotions and manage them successfully. An impatient mind is always vulnerable to situations. Patience in life signifies personality made up of purity and positivity.
(Dr. Debilal Mishra is a communication specialist currently working at Ravenshaw University, Cuttack, Odisha as Assistant Prof., Dept. of Journalism and Mass Communication)